“ I have a battle waging in my head right now. The strong need for a regular income vs. the strong desire to be myself. It seems there is a black/white choice – either I have a regular income from a job I don’t really want, or I be myself, which means I want nothing to do with the job. My most peaceful mind comes from creating art, but my most regular income comes from keeping the job that constantly pushes my buttons. I now have a wife and 3 kids to support…am I stuck in the job until I retire? I love my wife and kids, and putting them and myself in financial risk drives me insane, but so does the job. Anyone else deal with these issues?”
While I don’t have simple answers, I do know that work and life balance is something everyone has to make a priority.
For example – she does not engage in small talk, but she knows that since she often does not conform to rules she cannot detect, she ends up being a great business coach for others. She has no “filter” when she talks to people – that’s gotten her fired from jobs, but her honest and direct feedback is what her business coaching clients are looking for.
Dr. Valerie Gaus, author of Living Well on the Autism Spectrum, spend the first part of the book talks about differences autism presents in dealing with everyday life. These differences include both strengths and vulnerabilities.
Buy Dr. Gaus’ book (or check it out from the library) and study the first part of the book to see what differences you most strongly identify with.
Once you better understand your neurological tendencies, move on to better understanding your career personality and profile. Maybe your current career is a good fit. Maybe it isn’t! Take your time to understand these things.
Finally, check out the JAN website to see if a free consultant can help you identify modifications to your job that will help you function better at work.
When you take the above action steps, you’ll decrease stress at work.
When you decrease stress at work, your stress levels outside of work will decrease, and work and life balance becomes much easier.
Do you have more questions about work and life balance?
Join the Thrive with Aspergers community by contacting me. We can crowdsource answers to your questions!
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