Here Are 5 Autism Motivation Quotes You Need To See
Life Motivation From Aspergians and Autistics
Have you ever wondered what to do about low motivation?
What about low motivation and the autism spectrum?
That’s what many of you asked on my reader survey last year.
So I decided to find some answers.
I checked out various autistic and Aspergian blogs, and also a thread on Wrong Planet.
Here are the 5 autism motivation quotes you need to see.
Why Aspergians and Autistics May Struggle With Motivation: EveryDay Aspergers.
In her post, ASD Findings: Aspergers, Samantha Craft, M.Ed., writes:
The individual with AS often lacks the ability to self-motivate in order to complete a task, when the job at hand is not of great interest or urgency. High levels of self-motivation often coincide with a strong interest, sense of gain (knowledge, proving an altruistic cause, financial), recent emotional upheaval, desire to be understood, a need to self-preserve through distraction, and the want to please and do a good job. An interest might be piqued by the unconscious tendency to mirror and take on another person’s (friend, colleague, family member) interests.
Parenting Tip From Asperger Experts: Motivating Your AS Child/Teen: Danny from Asperger Experts
Danny from Asperger Experts, in his post, Getting Someone With Aspergers To Do Something, writes:
You cannot get anyone with Asperger’s to do anything they don’t want to do.
Read that again.
Find out what they are ALREADY motivated to do, and you help them get more into that. Yes, even if someone likes to play video games, if you help them get more into that, they might want to join a group of friends and play together. Which means…. they will be practicing social skills!
And if their hobby costs a bit of money to maintain… suddenly they will have all the motivation in the world to get a job.
To summarize: Instead of forcing your will ON them, see what they are already motivated to do, and go FROM that.
When I read this, I think of the Golden Rule: treat others like you want to be treated. Would you want to be nagged and pestered? I don’t think so! We’ve all been through that! Great advice from Danny.
Here’s a bonus: Check out Asperger Experts’ posts on Motivation.
Autistic Intertia: Motivation Tip From Shawna at Thoughts of An Introverted Matriarch
In her article, #Autistic Inertia, Shawna talks about getting stuck on a thought or series of thoughts, such that she can’t get things done.
“This is not about procrastination, or being lazy. I maybe lack motivation on these days, but I would call it more misplaced motivation, because it doesn’t feel like it’s a choice to be so stuck in the inertia.”
Next, she offers tips to those of us who may trying to “motivate” our Aspergers partner, child, or friend.
And if you are reading this and saying, “But I’m the one with autism/Aspergers. I need to know how to motivate myself!”, use these tips for yourself, as if you are your own coach.
If I were to give some tips on how to help someone you suspect is having this issue I would say:
* Be gentle. Being harsh will make it worse.
* Provide lots of positive feedback. Sometimes, just a shift in disposition can boost me out of intertia.
*Decide what needs to be done,and what can wait.
*Throw in a lot of breaks in between tasks.
*Make sure the tasks include some fun things, too.
*Make sure a few (maybe every other task) be ones that involves movement. Sometimes that helps to break the loop.
*Remember that this isn’t purposeful, nor does it reflect on a person’s character, or that person’s upbringing. We have too many ideas in our society about what it means to be productive, not lazy, and obedient when many serve no purpose outside of social convention.
Pursue Social Motivation Before You Pursue Social Skills: Bob Yamtich
In his article and video, Literal Thinking Is In My Bones: Social Motivation Trumps Social Skills, Bob says,
“I imagine that some people are already highly motivated to improve their social skills. To them, I still suggest assessing for fun and enjoyment (more than appropriateness and behavior) as you try out different situations.”
Motivation To Master Social Skills: Kristen Lindsmith
In Body Language 101: Part 2: How?, Kristen Lindsmith writes:
While I believe that anyone can learn to understand the fundamentals of nonverbal communication with the right resources and enough study, such things don’t come easy; the “10,000-hour rule" still applies. This may have been comparatively easier for me than for other autistics for a variety of reasons—chiefly the fact that body language became an intense special interest of mine. I learned what I know now because I have dedicated a tremendous amount of time towards my pursuit of these skills. It takes far more than an afternoon to become socially savvy through dedicated study. And yet, only one afternoon is all it takes to break the surface, to understand that there exists a vast and silent language that has always been there, just out of reach. You can’t learn to swim without getting your toes wet, and all it takes is that first foray into the unknown for the incredible world of human social games to provide the motivation to dive in.
Thoughts About AS and Low Motivation (inspired by this Wrong Planet thread)
The above thread on Wrong Planet made me think about the role that depression can play in low motivation.
Are you depressed?
Screen yourself for depression. Take this depression screening quiz from Mental Health America.
Read M. Kelter’s series about Depression and Aspergers to learn how depression manifests for autistics/Aspergians.
Connect with others on the autism spectrum. If you’re not sure where to go first, check out my list of top 10 Autism/Aspergers blogs, all of which are written by autistics.
Get moving. Depending on how depressed you are, you may be sitting at home, or lying in bed, unable to face the day. Check out these self-help cognitive behavior worksheets and start filling them out.
Are executive functioning challenges getting in the way?
Read Cynthia Kim’s series on executive functioning.
Check out the ADHD ReWired podcast, by Eric Tivers, LCSW, for ideas on organizing and motivation.
I hope you liked these autism motivation quotes from people just like you! Do you have some autism motivation tips to share with us? Leave them in the comments below!
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