TWP065: Are You Setting Goals For Life?

Are Things Happening To You, Or Are You Making Things Happen?

goals for life

“If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” ~ Jim Rohn

Blink, blink, blink.

That’s you and me, staring at the wall, wondering why we have no motivation to change our lives.

Are things happening to you, or are you making things happen?

I didn’t start setting goals for life until well after college.

I never thought much about goals.

I never expected much out of life.

Then I started listening to Brian Tracy’s Psychology of Achievement, and I changed my mindset and practice.

I now set goals every year, and you can, too.

We all want to live life to the fullest: to make a difference with our lives.

But either you’ve tried to set goals, or you’ve set goals and not been able to meet them.

Goals For Life:  Are Goal Setters A Dying Breed?

Maybe I should ask whether Aspergians and autistics are a dying breed.

Here’s what one Aspergian wrote in this Wrong Planet thread:

I was right for not wanting to go to college since I had no real career goals or choices. I have no interest in getting married or having children. I’m just waiting for the clock to run out on my life because I don’t have any real goals or passions or ambitions. I fear to even consider any new possible career choices as I am afraid that it will take me another 4 years to realize I only pursued such a career halfass and never had the real passion for it that I should’ve.

Here’s what someone else in the same thread said:

Everything of any import that I ever wanted, was blocked from my access by insurmountable barriers. in the banquet of life, all i could manage to rate was the leftover crumbs on the floor. i have found therefore, that one should systematically lower one’s expectations of life until they match one’s mundane reality, if only to avoid the suffering that comes from constantly thwarted goals.

Benefits That Lie Hidden in Setting Life Goals

Charles Stanley, the author of Success God’s Way, points out both the benefits of setting goals and the disadvantages of failing to set goals.

A person with goals:

  • Has a sense of direction
  • Excitement about life
  • Pursues excellence
  • Appreciates others who are successful
  • Strong sense of purpose, value, and worth
  • Seeks a creative, active life
  • Seeks a balanced life marked by emotional and physical health

A person without goals is:

  • Adrift
  • Has little excitement in living
  • Accepts mediocrity
  • Is critical of others who are successful
  • Is disappointed with existence
  • Settles for living in a rut
  • Misses out on harnessing God’s gifts of time, resources, and energy

Some Obstacles To Setting Goals For Life

Reasons both autistics and non-autistics may struggle with setting goals:

We may have disqualified ourselves.  We’ve tried setting goals before, but they’ve only ended in failure.

Maybe we just don’t know how to set effective goals, and they’ve been unrealistic, or not framed effectively.

Maybe we fear success.  Maybe we fear failure.  Or maybe we don’t have a big enough Why for working toward goals.

Why autistics/Aspergians may sometimes despair:

In an article titled Neurodiversity, Quality of Life, and Autistic Adults: Shifting Research and Professional Focuses onto Real-Life, Scott Michael Robertson, autistic researcher, pointed out that society often discriminates and poses barriers to those on the spectrum.

He recommends that future research borrow insights from the autistic community.

In a similar way, I recommend that both non-autistics/Aspergians and autistics/Aspergians crowdsource insights to carry out personal life goals.

It’s Never Too Late

You cannot change your destination overnight, but you can change your direction overnight.”

~ Jim Rohn

  1. Take This Free Assessment.  I admit it.  I absolutely love taking assessments.  Self-discovery can be hard, so any tool that makes it easier is a win in my book.That’s why I love this free tool from Michael Hyatt.You can actually score your LIFE.Sounds weird, I know, but hang with me.We measure so much in our businesses. It helps us see what’s working, what’s not, and big opportunities to improve.

    So why not give your health, your finances, and your relationships the same advantage?

    I just did it, and it took me ten minutes.

    All you do is quickly rate yourself in each of life’s major domains.

    You read a series of descriptive statements and pick the one that most closely aligns with where you perceive yourself to be. You then refine a bit based on your unique situation. It all adds up to your LifeScore™.

    It’s simple. But I promise it will instantly show you your opportunities to grow this year.

  2. Set one goal.   What is one thing you’d like to carry out that would make a big difference in your life?  Put it in writing.  Here’s a goal setting worksheet to help you.  Check out any of these articles from my other blog, Personal Success Factors.  I wrote all of them on the topic of goal setting.
  3. Crowdsource your obstacles.
    1. Join the Thrive with Aspergers community.
    2. Post your goal there.
    3. When obstacles come up, ask for feedback!  Many minds are better than one.
  4. Let me know once you’ve joined, and let me know what your goal is (post it in the community).  The Thrivers community is safe and helpful.  Let’s help each other succeed.  We may not have all the answers, but perhaps we can problem-solve together!  If you post one of your goals, I’ll post one of mine!

Get Ready, Get Set, Let’s Go

Let’s get ready to have a great year ahead.  Connect with the Thrivers Community, or WrongPlanet, or some other online community that you trust.  Set your goal and put it in writing.   Then connect with others who also want to carry out their goals and support you as well.

I look forward to hearing from you!


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 I'm Steve Borgman.  I'm a licensed clinical professional counselor and blogger committed to bringing you hope, understanding, and solutions that you can apply to your life immediately.

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