Discover This Valuable Aspergers Career Advice

aspergers careers adviceWhat do an Olympian, a Navy SEAL, and a Rhodes scholar have in common? Each individual is committed to paying the price, accepting her/his limits and strengths, and taking personal responsibility for her/his results.

Not many people are willing to train thousands of hours, move outside their comfort zone, give up many activities in order to reach their goals.
But the above individuals are.

Here’s some valuable Aspergers career advice:

If you follow it, you’ll enhance your likelihood of obtaining and maintaining a job and a career.

Ignore this advice at your own peril.

Here’s the advice in a nutshell:  Commitment, Acceptance, and Self-Responsibility.

This video illustrates this advice very well.

Don’t skip it!  Watch it now!

Nick is president of his own organization and was married in 2010.

Little minds are tamed and subdued by misfortune, but great minds rise above them.(Washington Irving)

In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity. (Albert Einstein)

Gail Hawkins, innovative and experienced vocational consultant, and author of How To Find Work That Works for People With Asperger Syndrome, shares the three following keys to vocational success:


Commit to finding work that works.

There are certain thing that only you, the job candidate, can do.

Only you can commit to putting in the hard work of putting your heart and soul into this endeavor.

Here’s a scenario Ms. Hawkins shares from her book to help us understand the kind of commitment and effort needed:

Imagine for a moment that it is the future.  You live on a planet where there is no work for you, and there will never be because the planet has been drained of its resources.  You have been offered a ticket to travel to another galaxy where there are good jobs but you are told upfront that your life will be difficulty.  You are also told, however, that if you work hard and assimilate, you can be very successful.  You understand that if  you go to this galaxy, you will be thrown into a completely different culture and need to learn a new language, customs, laws, and social rules.  It will be a very steep learning curve and some people will be prejudiced against you.  It is even possible that some people may treat your poorly.  You know that you will have to work harder than everyone else in order to be treated equally.  The people of this galaxy will have very little understanding of your culture and customs and will find your behavior odd and unusual.  There will be some people who will take an interest in you, see your potential and offer you opportunities.  Ultimately, though, it will be up to you to make something of yourself in this new place.

Going to this new galaxy is a huge commitment and it will impact the way you live your life from this point forward. You will have to alter many things about yourself including how you interact with people, how you think, and how you look at yourself.  What would you decide? [Would you decide to go, or not?]

As an individual on the autism spectrum, ask yourself whether you’re ready to commit to learning the unwritten rules of social culture, especially if you’ve dismissed them as unimportant until now.  It may feel like you are playing a silly game.  But anytime you are in a different culture, you must learn to act in line with those cultural norms and rules in order to be accepted and have some success.


Perhaps you’re not even sure if you have Aspergers.  Many adults with Aspergers didn’t find out about their diagnosis until later in life.  Sometimes it was through their own child’s diagnosis.

Or a caring spouse, friend, or professional may have suggested it to them.

I encourage you, if you’re not sure, to take an online test that may point to the possibility of autism features, and then take steps to get an official Aspergers diagnosis for peace of mind.

If an Aspergers or autism diagnosis is confirmed, you’ll go through a variety of emotions: relief, anger, disappointment, maybe even denial.  That’s normal.

But eventually, an individual on the autism spectrum needs to consider three areas of self-acceptance if s/he wants to move forward in his/her life:

  • accepting differences and celebrating uniqueness
  • accepting the diagnosis
  • accepting the challenges
If you buy no other book, I strongly encourage you to purchase John Elder Robison’s book, Be Different.  John, himself diagnosed with Aspergers in his forties, writes in an eloquent yet easy to understand manner.  He doesn’t sugar-coat the challenges of Asperger’s, but he also paints a pragmatic and optimistic vision of what every Aspergian’s future can look like.


“I am responsible.  I am responsible.  I am responsible.”

This is one of the most important phrases you can learn.

When you’re discouraged.  When you feel victimized.  When life feel’s unfair.

In the end, most of what happens in life lies in the space between stimulus and response.  And you have the power to choose your response.

Self-responsibility will help you learn the skills you need to succeed in relationships and in your career.

I’ve learned the importance of taking responsibility for my actions.  The more quickly you adopt this attitude, the more quickly you can move toward your objective of success in work and in your relationships.

Are You Ready?

So, are you ready?

Have you committed to work tirelessly in pursuit of more successful career outcomes for your life?

Have you accepted your Aspergers or autism diagnosis, accepting the challenges and embracing the positive characteristics of your condition?

Are you taking personal responsibility for your life, to learn, change, and grow?

If so, you have built the foundation for Aspergers career success.

What do you think?  I’d love to hear from you.  Please comment below!

 photo credit: blumpy

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 I'm Steve Borgman.  I'm a licensed clinical professional counselor and blogger committed to bringing you hope, understanding, and solutions that you can apply to your life immediately.

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  • Hello Stephen,

    I appreciate you for this great post and sharing an excellent video with us. Even your advice in nutshell that is Commitment, Acceptance, and Self-Responsibility is great. I would like to add few more career advice here. To take responsibility and do things grab every opportunity for which you are unqualified. Try new things and for this change your career if needed.

    Thanks for sharing!

  • Stephen Borgman

    Janet, thank you for the feedback. It’s definitely important to train ourselves to see new opportunities. Jonathan Wells wrote a great article on this very topic over at Advanced Life Skills:

  • farouk

    its an awesome idea to dedicate a website for autism
    i want to look for more information about autism and i think i am in the right place
    keep it up

  • Stephen Borgman

    Farouk, it’s an honor to have you stop by. If you have pertinent career or dating advice you’d like to share with my audience, I welcome a guest article from you. My mission on this blog is to help 2 million individuals on the autism spectrum reach their and career goals by 2022. You can be part of that mission! 🙂