I’m a third culture kid. Third culture kids grow up in between cultures. For example, my parents were American missionaries in Brazil, South America for over 40 years. I was born in Brazil, yet I lived on an American mission compound in a Brazilian city. I spent some years of my life among the Sanuma Indians. And I attended Brazilian schools and played with Brazilian friends from kindergarten through fourth grade. Every four years my parents would take a furlough and come back to the United States to visit supporting churches and family members.
When I came to the United States for college at age 18, I looked like an American and I spoke English like an American. But my mindset and values were very non-American. Yet they weren’t Brazilian, either. Where did I belong?
Whenever I meet other third culture people, whether missionary kids, Army kids, or even second generation ethnic group people here in the United States, I understand them right away. I feel encouraged and connected. When I read some research literature about third culture kids in graduate school, I felt encouraged, enlightened, and empowered. Finally, many things I hadn’t understood made sense.
My point, with my personal story, is that just connecting with other third culture people has encouraged me, Aspergers women can connect on the internet with others who understand their struggles and offer hope and encouragement.
Aspergers women are a minority. More boys than girls are diagnosed with autism. According to the Little Professor, boys are 10 more times likely to be referred for Aspergers evaluation. The actual ratio of boys diagnosed with Aspergers versus girls is 4:1. One can feel discouraged and lonely as a minority, but there is courage, knowledge, and advocacy in the Aspergers online community. I’d like to introduce you to some Aspergers women resources I’ve recently found.
Ms. Salas writes about the positive aspects of the autism spectrum. She was herself diagnosed with Asperger’s in her 30’s. As she learned more about Aspergers, she became exhausted hearing about all the deficits and drawbacks of people with autism. So she wrote a book, Black and White, and blogs about all the positives.
My philosophy focuses on the positives in life and the gifts that come with autism. And yes, I am well aware of the deficits and delays paired with the diagnosis. Believe me, they’ve been drilled into my head. So, let’s move forward shall we? I want to talk about the good stuff: highly specialized skills and interests; heightened focus and concentration; computer whizzes; technology gurus; photographic memories; uncanny memorization skills; musical prodigies; mathematical brilliance; artistic genius, and so on…
Aspie Writer’s blog byline reads, Understanding Autism From the Inside.
Jeannie Davide-Rivera started her blog as a book writing project.
She has since published, “Twirling Naked in the Streets–and No-one Noticed, which is a memoir of sorts about my life growing up with undiagnosed autism. A glimpse of the pain and loneliness of living 38 years with undiagnosed Asperger’s Syndrome, and the myriad of wrong diagnosis’ and medication madness that ensued. My readers will follow along the path to the discovery of my “condition" and my ongoing struggle to understand and accept me."
Inner Aspie is a stay at home mother with Aspergers. She has three children, one with mild autism, one with dyslexia, and one with severe autism. I’ve appreciated her writing about her personal experience on the autism spectrum, but also as a parent of children on the spectrum.
Cynthia Kim was diagnosed in her 30s with Aspegers. She shares stories from her life, some strategies she’s used to navigate life, and “optimism and positivity tempered by reality."
Her blog addresses Adult Diagnosis, Asperger’s and Marriage, Asperger’s and Motherhood. She also shares Aspergers and Autism resources and “working definitions" for different autism spectrum terms [allistic, Asperger’s Syndrome (AS), Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), Central Coherence, Executive Function, Neurotypical (NT), Perseverative, Stimming.]
She’s the author of the new book, Living Independently on the Autism Spectrum: What You Need to Know to Move into a Place of Your Own, Succeed at Work, Start a Relationship, Stay Safe, and Enjoy Life as an Adult on the Autism Spectrum, and I’ve learned a lot about the autism spectrum her from her posts.
She advocates for diversity and disabilities awareness in her writing. By day she works as a technology professional in a Fortune 500 company.
Tania Marshall is a psychologist currently studying for her PhD and specializing in better understanding Aspergers and women. She also runs a private practice specializing in child, teen, and adult autistic spectrum conditions.
In her blog, she includes a lot of her current research ideas, as well as interviews with many autism authors and advocates.
These are some helpful Aspergers women blogs I found. Which ones do you recommend?
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