When you’re in the midst of a discouraging situation, it can be hard to hang on to hope.
I’ve certainly heard from many partners in AS (Autism/Aspergers) marriages expressing frustration and disappointment.
You can inject hope into your marriage with the following specialized marriage tips.
I reviewed a number of AS and non-AS blogs and sources to bring you these tips.
a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen.
“he looked through her belongings in the hope of coming across some information”
synonyms: aspiration, desire, wish, expectation, ambition, aim, goal, plan, design; More
a feeling of trust.
want something to happen or be the case.
“he’s hoping for an offer of compensation”
synonyms: expect, anticipate, look for, be hopeful of, pin one’s hopes on, want;
Here are 7 Marriage Tips To Revive Your Relationship
1. Read these 14 strategies and figure out the easiest one to put into practice
In that article, I’ve listed a table of common needs for a) both Aspergers and non-Aspergers people b) common non-Aspergers needs and c) common Aspergers needs.
Second, pick out your top 3 needs from that table.
Third, talk with your partner during a time when you’re both relaxed, and figure out how you can help meet each others’ needs.
For example, my wife needs help with the chores. Acts of service are one of her love languages.
I, however, thrive on verbal encouragement and touch.
We didn’t figure out these needs until a couple of months (or was it years) into our marriage.
Once we did figure them out, we needed to talk together about how I could help out more diligently with chores around the house, and how she could thank me and give me my hugs 🙂
5. Come up with a system of labor that helps you share the household responsibilities.
One partner in a successful AS marriage wrote,
“One of the things that’s worked very well for us, is a division of labor. We each stick with what we do best, and we don’t meddle in the activities of the other. I make dinner, and she cleans up. I do repairs and upkeep on the house, and she handles the bills. Every now and then we intersect, but that generally doesn’t go well. It’s challenging. At best, we’re as supportive towards each other as we can be.”
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